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The Three Cs of Being Pregnant

The pregnancy process is one which demands much from you, both emotionally and physically. Your body will go through changes, which are both hard and easy to predict. We all know the cliches. You will be hungry for foods you never have or will never want to eat again; you will find it more difficult to get comfortable at night; and you’ll be greeted pleasantly by everyone you meet. Being pregnant is a wonderful time, but it does come with some challenges. In order to give your beautiful child the most healthy and strong start in life, it’s important to be diligent in looking after yourself.

There are so many different things to remember during pregnancy that it can be overwhelming. Not only do you have to look after your body, but prepare your home for the new child, emotionally and financially prepare, and organize your working schedules to best fit the expected day. We’ve crafted the following‘three Cs of pregnancy, which should help you keep everything memorable and streamlined enough to actually pull off easily. Here they are:


Of course, you must take care of yourself. It’s easy to think this, but not actually plan for it. First, you need to focus on your diet. You are now eating for two, so be careful what you put in your body. Fast foods and high sugars are to be avoided, and well fibrous, vegetable and protein dense foods should be a component. If you can, switch to complex carbs, such as brown rice or whole grain pasta and bread. You should also supplement your diet with folic acid, and the right combination of prenatal vitamins – click here to learn more.


You must also be mindful of the way your body is now reacting to your day-to-day movement. Or course, it will be different, and you should note any changes and discuss them at your appointments with your obgyn. But there is no reason why you should not regularly exercise, unless your doctor says so. Cut any bad habits, such as smoking and drinking, as soon as you discover you are pregnant. If you are having trouble, then discuss this with your doctor also. Your doctor is your best resource for all your physical changes, and there is nothing that is “too silly” to bring up. Give your baby the best start in life by starting your loving care during your pregnancy.


Planning is one of the most important parts of pregnancy, and you have 9 months to plan for the new addition to your family. Discuss with your doctor your birthing plans and sign up to take a tour of the hospital, where you will deliver your child. Hospitals and obgyn offices often offer classes at a low fee for first-time parents and for moms who want to breastfeed. Coordinating could also mean learning about the duties of being a parent. Knowing how to burp, feed, change, and bathe a baby are all things, which take care to get right. Learn how much milk they need at different stages. Register with a preferred pediatric nurse in case any health occurrences should arise.

At home, decorate and detail the room for your baby. Think about ways you will need to baby proof the home because your infant will be growing and crawling before you know it. You might not need to cover up sharp corners or add baby gates to your staircases yet, but you may need to separate your pets, replace any toxic cleaners, and make sure the house is the correct temperature for your baby. Become focused in your planning. Your child will be here much sooner than you think.

With these three Cs, your child will be born to a loving, compassionate, safe, clean, warm and most importantly of all, prepared home.

What is a practical parenting tip you can give to expectant mothers that you wish you would have known when you were expecting? 

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Questions to Ask Yourself Before Buying A (nother) Baby Product

If there’s one thing that women do while pregnant, it’s shopping. Shopping and expecting a baby seem to go hand-in-hand, and admittedly, most of those purchases are necessary. You’re going to have to fill your home with equipment and supplies you have never needed before so that you’re ready to welcome your new baby.

However, if you read enough guides, you will find yourself with a shopping list so long that it feels you will never complete it. How can a baby need so much stuff? The demands are endless, and naturally, every product manufacturer absolutely insists that their product is completely necessary. Of course, you want the best for your baby, so you buy… and then find yourself joining the ranks of parents who don’t use half of those so-called “essential” items.

Before your next purchase, it’s worth running a few questions through your mind to see if a product truly is needed, or if it’s one you can skip.

“Can I Envisage A Scenario Where I Will Use This?”

Many products will pass this question with ease; it’s simple to imagine when you’re going to use a breast pump or a toy that can also monitor your baby’s breathing while they sleep. More esoteric products, however, will fail this test, helping to shorten your shopping list in one fell swoop.

“Does This Product Fix A Problem?”

The majority of products will pass this test as well. Concerned about your baby rolling over while sleeping? There are plenty of baby pillows that can help fix that issue. Worried your baby is going to struggle to adapt to their new environment? Then you can look for the best baby sound machines to help meet that need. A huge number of baby products are expressly designed to meet the needs of parents, so this test is relatively easy to pass.

What won’t pass is decorative and novelty items. These items are nice, of course, and there’s no harm in having a few, but you don’t want to go overboard and stretch your budget as a result.

“Is This Something That Will Be Used Frequently?”

The most important products to buy are those that will be in constant use, such as baby monitors, strollers, highchairs, and car seats. These are the items that should command the majority of your budget.

However, if an item is only designed to be used in certain, infrequent situations — such as when your baby has a cold — then it’s wise to leave these products on the shelf for now. You can always purchase them in the future, when you’re experiencing the problem that these products are designed to ease.

In Conclusion

There’s enough shopping to do to meet the essential needs of your baby, so it’s important to avoid making life even more difficult by buying additional items that may not be necessary. If a product can pass the three questions above, chances are it’s a good purchase; if a product fails, then you might want to leave its purchase until a later date or not at all. With less shopping to do, you can focus on enjoying being pregnant, and look forward to greeting your bundle of joy!



Midwives VS Doulas: What’s the Difference?

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As a soon-to-be parent, you’ll be introduced to a whole new world of prenatal classes, pregnancy advice books and terminology you’ve never heard before. It can be a pretty daunting time, especially as the strain on your body grows every day and hormones start raging. Luckily, there are trained people who are there throughout your pregnancy, birth, and even after. You are not alone by any stretch.

Two types of experts can help you through your pregnancy. One of those is a midwife, and the other is a doula.

You’ll be forgiven for not hearing of a doula before, not many of us do until the time comes to need one. But why have a doula AND a midwife? Both of these professionals have a different role to play in your pregnancy as well as different qualifications and skills. Let’s talk through them.


Doula services are invaluable to a woman during pregnancy. Doula literally means “woman’s servant” in Greek, and they are there to be your support, friend and confidant over the nine-month period.

A doula is not medically trained, and therefore is not a substitute for a doctor or midwife. There are two types of doulas: birth and postpartum, although some carry out both services. You can use a doula as a friend during pregnancy; they will give you advice, help you out when you are struggling and will come up with a labor plan with you. They are ideal for expecting mothers who don’t have a partner.

During birth, a doula will be present to offer relaxing breathing techniques, to keep you talking and distracted, and to help you move into different positions throughout labor. And in postpartum, they can provide you advice and support in those first few weeks of motherhood.


A midwife is, of course, the person who will deliver your baby alongside a doctor. They are medically trained and can perform gynecology exams, conduct ultrasounds, provide you with painkillers throughout labor ,and advise you on which method of birthing to choose.

A midwife’s primary duty is to provide medical care for pregnant women, to detect any abnormalities or medical issues throughout pregnancy, and to perform emergency procedures when necessary.

Unlike doulas, midwives undergo training, education, and clinical work experience before becoming certified.

Do I Have To Choose?

As discussed, both of these professionals have their own merits and benefits for an expecting mother. A doula acts as a friend, keeping you calm and informed throughout the pregnancy and helping you decide what your best options are for birthing, while a midwife offers medical care and looks after the well-being of you and your unborn child throughout pregnancy. They teach prenatal classes and perform medical procedures.

You can choose to have both of these aids present throughout pregnancy because they both offer something that the other cannot. Having trained professionals like these present throughout the nine-month period will put your mind at ease and allow you to enjoy your pregnancy and birth. They can also make your life easier as a parent once the birth is over.

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