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Books and Writing by Margo L. Dill (aka Margo Lynn)
Is organization and planning in today’s fast-paced world becoming more rare than ever before? When you ask a busy parent, what are you going to have for dinner? Most will answer: I’ll figure it out at 5. Wondering what you and your friends should buy a co-worker who is having a baby? Good thing someone is an Amazon Prime member, so the gift can be delivered, gift-wrapped, in two days.
I know for myself I’m often figuring out what I need to do the day of an event or even the day of my surgery (where I wished I would have read the information the night before). I used to be a planner–a big planner–because my thought was that things went better, especially as a mom, if I planned them in advance. But then I got a divorce, and there wasn’t time or energy to be such a planner. So I learned to do a lot by the seat of my pants, and one thing I did learn is. . .we survived. Planning may help, but sometimes, it also causes more stress.
Recently, I had a discussion with someone, and here’s what he had to say about a recent business trip, where he was asked to give training with no preparation and fix complicated machinery (which is not his job) in very little time:
I was thinking about this week and how it has been just one ridiculous, crazy adventure after another. No plans, no preparation, under the gun every single day. And my life has always seemed to be like this…Over the years, I have just learned to shrug it off. I don’t stress over it because I know there is nothing I can do. All I can do is just face it head on and do my best. And every time this week, somehow I made it work. So obviously, the next thought to cross my mind was…What happens when one day we can’t make it all work out? What happens when I fail to figure something out on the fly?
Maybe this has already happened, and I just don’t think about it because I knew it was the best I could do.
How about you? Have you faced situations like this? Do you stress out about them? Do you think they are teaching you coping skills? Do you plan?Tags: coping skills, organization, stress