Change is an inevitable part of life. As adults, we know that all too well. By the time we reach our thirties, most of us have experienced so many changes that we don’t even think about it. When you’re young, though, things couldn’t be more different.
For a child, even small changes can cause untold disruption. Something as simple as a house move a few blocks away can cause real distress in youngsters. More significant changes, like divorce or long-distance moves, can cause, issues including depression and anxiety.
That’s something we, as parents, want to protect against if at all possible. Luckily, there are plenty of articles about how to help your child cope with change. These are invaluable resources. Yet, while resources can help your child cope, few look at how to get them to actually embrace change.
This is a problem, as it facilitates a mindset of “getting through” change more than anything else. Given how many changes your child is set to face, many would argue this is a negative mindset.
A healthy and happy child should embrace change for the possibilities it can bring. Keep reading to make sure your youngsters fall into that category.
Always Focus on the Positives of Any Situation
First note is that you should try to focus on the positives of change with your child. Too often, we focus on the things which change can take away when talking it through with our kids. If you’re moving to a new house, for instance, concentrate conversations around making new friends rather than leaving old ones. If you’re in talks with a family law attorney, you could speak about having two homes with special things in both, rather than the loss of the family unit. It is, of course, essential to prepare your child for all aspects of an upcoming change. But, make sure that you spend a whole lot more time getting them excited about those positives.
Keep Some Things Constant
There’s no way that your child is going to see change as a positive if everything that they know changes overnight. If their routine gets lost as a parent moves out of the family home, for example, the change is going to hit your child harder. Make sure that it doesn’t happen by keeping things like simple routines constant. Something as small as ensuring your child eats at the same times each day can provide them something to hold onto. That can help them to weather change and even look forward to those positives from their comfort zones.
Work Towards Goals Where You Can
Even at a young age, you’ll find that kids are far more willing to embrace change if it’s working towards a long-term goal. If you’re moving to a new house, for instance, focusing on a better bedroom could be all the motivation your child needs. As kids get older, things like proximity to shops and good schools could become motivators. Either way, providing a foreseeable reward can ensure your child embraces change with open arms instead of fighting against it in the future.