One thing I want to do with this blog is to spread the word that if you are experiencing something like I am experiencing, we are not alone! I’ve made that pretty clear with the endometriosis/hysterectomy posts and even some of my writing posts. So with this one I thought I would approach a new subject–the first quarter of Kindergarten. (You probably just shuddered.)
My daughter started Kindergarten August 17, and some nights, I’m just going to be honest here, she transforms into a crying, screeching beast. Tonight was one of those nights. Yes, it is difficult for her this week because I’m recovering from surgery, grandma and grandpa are over here more, and tonight, her godmother was here, too. Change of routine, lots of excitement, and she got up this morning at 5:30 am. (I have no idea why.) Add all these factors together and what comes out is an Academy Award winning performance of “Mommy is not being fair.” Even her godmother commented, “I haven’t seen a meltdown like this in years.” (Her girls are now almost 16 and 18). Let’s just say my daughter has definitely learned the sight word, “No.” And eventually, she said, “I have non-stop crying-itis, and it is contagious. I can’t go to school tomorrow.”
And what caused all this drama? I wanted her to finish the sight word matching game before she watched YouTube. (I know, I know, I am so unreasonable.) The evening went downhill faster than a snowball in an avalanche, and get this–I was even trying to reason with her. This is Kindergarten Parenting Fail 101, and the episode lasted much longer than it should have, with a repeat performance right before bed. After she fell peacefully asleep, telling me she was sorry and loved me so much, I put a message on my MOPS group’s Facebook page that: yes indeed, I am interested in that Love and Logic Parenting class. 😉
Look, I know I’m not alone. Another MOPS mama recently told me that every day between 3pm and 5pm at her house is “something else” when her Kindergartener gets home from school with the other two children who are not school age. I remember a conversation last year with a Kindergarten mom who stated that Friday night dinners at their house were very rough. One of my friends from high school with four kids said: “Kindergarten is a different beast.” If you’re reading this post because you’re worried there’s something wrong with your child, well frankly, it is probably Kindergarten.
To keep up with the honesty theme, at our house, we probably have two very rough nights a week and a few small fires every other night. And I know she’s tired–I am too by the end of the day. I know she’s kept it together at school all day. I know she’s strong-willed. I know she’s testing her boundaries, and I know she needs routine, which I haven’t been able to give her much of because I have felt like crap. So I’m looking forward to a schedule installation program at our house soon. I also know I love her more than anything, and this is just one stage of many we will face.
Please share your Kindergarten woes here with us in the comments–whether it is your current reality or you are past this delightful stage.