Look To the Western Sky

A blog about single life as a parent & the dreams of a writer by Margo L. Dill

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Where Should You Go On Your Honeymoon? 3 Ways to Pick a Place

This week, it worked out on my blog to have some contributed posts and to host an author’s post (her first marriage was at 62!) that all have to do with weddings. I like this article below because instead of suggesting specific places to take a honeymoon or special romantic trip, it gives you three general categories to think about when deciding where to go…

Picking your honeymoon spot is important and special. It celebrates the two of you starting your life together, and it will be one of the special memories of your marriage. Weddings are wonderful, but sometimes the alone time you spend exploring a location with your new partner, or your partner with which you have reaffirmed your vows, is very important.

Where should you go on your honeymoon? If you’re struggling for ideas, the massive realm of possibility can overwhelm you. It’s not like with marriage on the horizon you have little to plan for anyway. For this reason, thinking about your honeymoon in the following places might be the wisest areas to begin.

Somewhere Emotionally Wholesome

Your relationship with someone is often part of a wider narrative, and it all spawned from the day you met. If you met somewhere interesting, why not schedule your honeymoon there? For example, if you met on vacation in Thailand, or you were both working conservation in the Australian outback, why not find the original place of your meeting and schedule your honeymoon around there? You might be able to recreate and chart the path of your initial falling in love, which could be a lovely time if you last visited these areas years ago. It will show how much interpersonal progress you have made since then, and give you a beautiful way to cap off your story of coming together before you begin a new story with your marriage.

Somewhere With a Spectacle

Marriage is something to be celebrated. For that reason, why not go big during your honeymoon experience? Heading somewhere with a spectacle, such as staying at the Chicago Marriott Schaumburg and getting tickets to famous musicals in the city, or what about heading to the The Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal Studios Florida and geeking out with childish charm. Spectacle means different things to different people, and the draw of a place might depend on your tastes and what works for you.

If you both find a common interest, such as light gambling for example, heading to Las Vegas for a weekend full of hilarity, silliness and late night bar hopping could work for you. Plus, there are many spectacles to take in on The Vegas Strip. Every couple is different, but the idea of an adventure is often something that sounds wonderful for most people, and can push you outside of your comfort zone a little when deciding on a vacation to take.

Somewhere With Good Luck

If you’re the superstitious kind, it might be worthwhile heading somewhere bound to give you a blessing. It could be retracing your steps regarding the moment you asked him or her to marry you and basing the vacation around this, heading to your local religious area of significance, or maybe even heading on a goodwill tour through volunteering for the global good and spending your time together for a cause you both find worthwhile and absolutely engaging to be a part of.

We’re sure that with the right perspective, and with this guide to help you make that decision, your perfect vacation destination is right around the corner.

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You Don’t Lose Until You Quit Trying

Today I have this lovely guest post from B. Lynn Goodwin, who wrote the book, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62. A little more about the book and the author is at the bottom of this post!

 

You Don’t Lose Until You Quit Trying

My husband introduced me to his favorite phrase, “You don’t lose until you quit trying” from the driver’s seat of his Mazda back when we were first dating. He used it to tackle business problems, used it when he was dating a woman before me, and still uses it as a reminder that bolsters my confidence.

The only time it didn’t work was when he was dating a woman who loved him but wasn’t “in love” with him. Come to think of it, maybe he did win, because he wouldn’t have found me if she said, “Yes.” We met each other after I met my husband, and she’s glad we’re together.

How does this philosophy work?

If you can’t open the lid on a glass jar, try again. Try harder.

o Put on more pressure as the left hand goes one way and the right another
o Run the lid under hot water
o Look for a tool to help
o If necessary, ask a neighbor with stronger hands to help.
o Eventually the lid will open, and maybe you’ll make a new friend in the process.

If you can’t turn the key that you’ve put in the lock, try again. Still no luck?

o Move your fingers so the pressure on the key is redistributed.
o Take the key out and spray the lock with WD-40.
o Push in against the door and try again.
o Maybe even ask for help?

Both are real-life scenarios. I’ve used my husband’s hands and my next-door neighbor’s screw-top opener to get a lid off a jar of caramel sauce so I could finish making a dump cake. I’ve twisted a key in the lock of an old sticky door near the bay, and when nothing worked, I knocked on the back door. Trying differently often solves the problem.

“You don’t lose until you quit trying” is meant to inspire people. Make the philosophy work for you and let it help you examine alternate methods for getting what you want. Here’s one more example.

How does a 62-year-old woman who’s never been married use this philosophy with a two-time widower seeking his third wife on . . . Craigslist?

You’ll know if you read Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62. It’s available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and in Indie Bookstores, who can order the book through Ingram.

Our best advertisement is word of mouth. If you like the story, please tell your friends and colleagues. Want to do more? One or two sentences on Amazon, telling people why you recommend the book, would be fabulous.

And why am I promoting my book here? Because you don’t lose until you quit trying.
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B. Lynn Goodwin owns Writer Advice, www.writeradvice.com. Her memoir, Never Too Late: From Wannabe to Wife at 62, was just released by Koehler Press.

She’s written You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers and Talent, which was short-listed for a Literary Lightbox Award, won a bronze medal in the Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards and was a finalist for a Sarton Women’s Book Award.

Goodwin’s work has appeared in Voices of Caregivers, Hip Mama, Dramatics Magazine, Inspire Me Today, The Sun, Good Housekeeping.com, Purple Clover.com and many other places. She is a reviewer and teacher at Story Circle Network, and she is an editor, writer and manuscript coach at Writer Advice.

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The Biggest Decisions to Make For Your Wedding Day

(contributed article)

If you are a single parent, then one day, you may have a wedding. Some people like to go BIG to celebrate a new start, and some like to reign it in with a few close loved ones. Your wedding is arguably one of the most important days of your life, but many of the decisions you make will simply stay as part of that amazing day. The music you hear, the food you eat, even the flowers you choose- while these are all extremely important, they won’t last forever. However there are elements of your wedding that will; and so you should take extra care when choosing these things. For this reason, here are some of the biggest decisions to make about your wedding day!

Picking The Photographer

Your photos will hang in your home as well as in the homes of your nearest and dearest; your wedding album will be one of your most cherished possessions. These pictures will be seen on social media and just about everywhere else you choose to share them. So finding the right person to capture your big day is a huge decision. Make sure to look through lots of portfolios and have a chat with the photographer you choose before the big day, so they know the kinds of shots that you want.

Choosing the Rings

One of the first things to consider when you’re choosing a wedding ring is the metal you want. Of course, you will want to choose something that matches your engagement ring, but it doesn’t have to be the exact same metal. If you have a white gold engagement ring, for example, you could go with platinum, which has a beautiful silvery white color. This will never fade, tarnish or change color; and while it’s a more expensive option, it’s incredibly good-looking and long-lasting. If your budget is smaller, palladium is a fabulous alternative, as it has a similar silvery white finish. It’s hypoallergenic and is still a high-quality metal, but doesn’t have the high price tag of some of the other materials available. It can be harder to find, but Tacori wedding rings do a selection of options.

Sterling silver is another choice; despite it being one of the most common metals in jewelery, it’s often overlooked for wedding rings. This really shouldn’t be the case. Silver is a beautiful choice, and it’s especially ideal for those on a budget. If you’ve splurged on the engagement ring and the rest of the wedding is increasing in price by the day, sterling silver rings could be a good place to save. They still look beautiful. last forever, and will work well with any silver colored metal engagement ring.

Finding Your Dream Dress

You will remember the way you felt on your wedding day forever, and so finding the perfect dress that you truly feel like a princess in is so important. Many people save their wedding dress, so it can be worn by their daughter later on when they grow up and get married, which is a lovely, sentimental idea. Wedding dress styles change, and so a few adjustments will probably be needed; but a good quality dress could be worn by you now and then passed down later on. Just be sure to have it properly preserved, so it’s free of pests, dust and marks wherever you store it.

 

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