Look To the Western Sky

A blog about single life as a parent & the dreams of a writer by Margo L. Dill

Peace is the Word

You know you’re singing this blog post title to the tune of Grease’s theme song: “Grease is the word. . .Peace is the word.”

Okay, I’m weird I know, and I may just get weirder when I relax this year because my word for 2017 is PEACE.

I’m super excited to have decided on this as my theme for the year, and I can only hope that it leads to a wonderfully amazing and peaceful year. What do I mean exactly that my “word of the year” is PEACE?

It definitely does not mean that I’m already peaceful, or of course, I would not have to choose this as my word. I need to work on bringing peace to my life. I need to get rid of activities that do not bring me peace and come into less contact with people who are toxic and chaotic. I want to spend time meditating, napping, reading, and sitting in the sun. I want to exercise because that gives me a relaxing feeling when I’m finished. I want to have less schedule and more fun with my daughter. I want to nurture relationships, especially ones that bring me happiness, joy, and you guessed it, peace.

Divorce is anything but peaceful. It is the exact opposite of my word of the year. Divorce when children are involved is even worse because this person whom you cannot get along with is STILL in your life; and together, you are trying to parent your child, whom you love more than life itself. How could that ever be peaceful? I have lived in chaos for a long time. SO really, peace is just an extension of my word from 2016, organization. Clutter does not bring peace. Organization does (for me).

What I’ve decided this year is that even if a relationship cannot be 100 percent peaceful, I can react to it peacefully. I don’t have to engage. I can have mutual respect even if it is not returned. I can put my daughter first and focus on what is best for her.

I also need to STOP second guessing myself and being so hard on myself. We all do this–it’s common for women, but I think men are just as bad. We are our own worst critic–that is a true, true statement. So I want to learn to stop criticizing myself so much, and find peace with my decisions and life path.

There are a lot of things in this word I cannot control, including and most especially any other human being on this planet. The U.S. right now does not bring me peace. The world does not bring me peace. So what will I do about these situations? I will commit to responding peacefully and trying very hard to NOT be quick to judge or harsh with my words.

How do you find peace?

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6 Comments

  1. I absolutely love this! This is so hard for so many of us–to find, to hang onto, to experience and enjoy. <3

    • luvboxerdogs

      January 24, 2017 at 7:32 am

      Thanks, Janny. You are right. It is very hard–I’m really going to focus on it, but I know it won’t always be easy. I’ll report back and let you know how it goes.

  2. I truly believe the answer can be found in the Serenity Prayer. If we let go of the things we can do nothing about, and focus only on the things we can change, we’ll find peace. The trouble is, it takes a lot of practice to actually do it, especially for a chronic worrier like me.

    • luvboxerdogs

      January 24, 2017 at 7:35 am

      Pat: Thank you for this reminder. I have to remind myself of this all the time. I do think that if we focus on things we can change, we do often make a difference on those things we can’t.

      One of my biggest problems is trying to get people to see things how I do–not because I think I’m right…;) , but because I want to “help” them. I am trying to learn and do better every day. I also worry a lot, which I am trying not to do. One of my friends says: if people aren’t happy, they will leave. Let them leave. It’s fine. It’s not your responsibility. He is right.

  3. I’ve been focusing on small joys quite a bit. Hugging my kids, watching TV, a cup of coffee, writing, going for a walk. Our society is so amped up it’s nice to feel grateful for simple pleasures.

    • Small joys are what make big joys! 🙂 I enjoy all those things too. I hate to say it but the older I get I enjoy just sitting in a chair and closing my eyes for 10 min. 🙂 I also enjoy random text messages from people I love. It really is the small things that make a big life.

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